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Based on my research thusfar, you can use one system or the other... not both at the same time. The only exception might be when you are with your other person.
This is not a bad thing necessarily, but as a result, many misunderstandings occur. It is extremely common for a woman (who typically uses the feeling system), to misunderstand a man (who typically uses the thinking system), and vice versa. The fact is, when someone using the feeling system tries to communicate with someone using the thinking system, it fails (and vice versa). This is simply because the two systems are different. It is similar to speaking different languages.
It might be best to continue using one or the other exclusively, as individuals. It helps us to master our respective system. And if it is true we use both simultaneously, when with our other, this should without question be the right path. If we do continue in this fashion, we should learn how to better structure things and deal with people of the other system.
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