The reason I've been away

Elliott · 07-03-2008, 03:25 PM

I'm sorry I've been away for so long. My husband's sister passed after a long agonizing battle with ALS and various cancer. She leaves behind a beautiful, sensitive and wise kid, a brother who loved her so much, and a step brother (me) who was blessed to be able to be so close to her in her final days. As you can imagine this house is full of devestated people, and it seems impossible to be apart from one another even for a second. Oh yea, I'm officially married now. The ceremony was bitter sweet because it was held in a hospital. Nick's sister's last wish was to see us get married, and she held on long enough to witness it. So now I'm a step-father, I've put my partner temporarily in charge of my company, and I'm unsure as to when I'll be able to return to work. The only upside of grief is the heightened sense of appreciation you have for you loved ones. I consider a bunch of you friends and wanted to keep you updated. If I ever get annoyed at my husband or situations at home I'll probably be taking it out on the trolls who riddle this board, and I may be an asshole or short to be who don't deserve it. Please accept my apology in advance.

Kanadesaga · 07-03-2008, 03:32 PM

Congratulations on your marriage!!

slowhand · 07-03-2008, 03:48 PM

Hey Elliot!..Im sorry to hear the bad news about your sister in law..ALS is a terrible disease, and to have cancer on top of it all is absolutely heart wrenching

Im happy to hear you got married..That is wonderful!..All the best to the both of you!

W.M.DEEEZ · 07-03-2008, 03:58 PM

Congrats, and condolences...in no particular order.

guest1234567 · 07-03-2008, 04:34 PM

What a confusing range of emotions you must be feeling, Elliott. What a wonderful and selfless person she must have been to ask that you and your husband live in happiness for the rest of your lives as her last request.

I'm sure you'll keep her in your heart as you remember her best as you look forward to your future.

Congrats on your marriage and my sympathy on your loss.

poetrychic · 07-03-2008, 07:27 PM

e, so sorry for all the heartache you guys are feeling over your loss...i can truly empathise, as the last 6 months have not been particularly kind to our family either...time does make it a bit better, especially if you remember all the happy memories that can bring a smile to your face...

i am happy that you got married, tell your husband he's very, very lucky to have you and to never take you for granted or else i'll have to come to california and kick his butt

...take care!!

pc

Heretic · 07-03-2008, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Elliott

I'm sorry I've been away for so long. My husband's sister passed after a long agonizing battle with ALS and various cancer. She leaves behind a beautiful, sensitive and wise kid, a brother who loved her so much, and a step brother (me) who was blessed to be able to be so close to her in her final days. As you can imagine this house is full of devestated people, and it seems impossible to be apart from one another even for a second. Oh yea, I'm officially married now. The ceremony was bitter sweet because it was held in a hospital. Nick's sister's last wish was to see us get married, and she held on long enough to witness it. So now I'm a step-father, I've put my partner temporarily in charge of my company, and I'm unsure as to when I'll be able to return to work. The only upside of grief is the heightened sense of appreciation you have for you loved ones. I consider a bunch of you friends and wanted to keep you updated. If I ever get annoyed at my husband or situations at home I'll probably be taking it out on the trolls who riddle this board, and I may be an asshole or short to be who don't deserve it. Please accept my apology in advance.

Slapping around board trolls as a means to relieve stress. How... endearing.

Anyway, that she wait to see you married means she chose her time. It's hard, yet a beautiful thing.

Elliott · 07-04-2008, 03:13 AM

I really appreciate all the kind words. My life has drastically changed! We're filing papers so that I can be an official co-parent. She wanted to see us get married because in her fading hours I think she needed to rely on that almost supernatural sense of intuition that people get when they are dying as a final test to see that she'd be leaving her son with two loving people who will make sure he wants for nothing. Nick's been quite the insomniac lately. I gave him an ambien and slept with him until he fell asleep (he really needed it) But I'm still awake and trying to complete some unfinished business and contact my e-friends.

anhailla · 07-04-2008, 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Elliott

I really appreciate all the kind words. My life has drastically changed! We're filing papers so that I can be an official co-parent. She wanted to see us get married because in her fading hours I think she needed to rely on that almost supernatural sense of intuition that people get when they are dying as a final test to see that she'd be leaving her son with two loving people who will make sure he wants for nothing. Nick's been quite the insomniac lately. I gave him an ambien and slept with him until he fell asleep (he really needed it) But I'm still awake and trying to complete some unfinished business and contact my e-friends.

sounds like you're handling things great, congratulations on the marriage!!!

brian_wilbanks · 07-05-2008, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Elliott

I'm sorry I've been away for so long. My husband's sister passed after a long agonizing battle with ALS and various cancer. She leaves behind a beautiful, sensitive and wise kid, a brother who loved her so much, and a step brother (me) who was blessed to be able to be so close to her in her final days. As you can imagine this house is full of devestated people, and it seems impossible to be apart from one another even for a second. Oh yea, I'm officially married now. The ceremony was bitter sweet because it was held in a hospital. Nick's sister's last wish was to see us get married, and she held on long enough to witness it. So now I'm a step-father, I've put my partner temporarily in charge of my company, and I'm unsure as to when I'll be able to return to work. The only upside of grief is the heightened sense of appreciation you have for you loved ones. I consider a bunch of you friends and wanted to keep you updated. If I ever get annoyed at my husband or situations at home I'll probably be taking it out on the trolls who riddle this board, and I may be an asshole or short to be who don't deserve it. Please accept my apology in advance.

Jeez man........

Sounds like you're doing the right thing though.....focusing on the good and positive things in your life and trying to be a good role model for the people who need you most.

No specifics....but about how old is the kid you've taken in?

I know first hand that losing a parent is tough. But from what little I know about you, I'm sure you'll do a fine job at helping him live through it.

Peace man.

07-03-2008, 03:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
Elliott suggestive human Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Los Angeles (Westwood) Posts: 1,079 My Mood: Thanks: 25 Thanked 31 Times in 20 Posts	The reason I've been away I'm sorry I've been away for so long. My husband's sister passed after a long agonizing battle with ALS and various cancer. She leaves behind a beautiful, sensitive and wise kid, a brother who loved her so much, and a step brother (me) who was blessed to be able to be so close to her in her final days. As you can imagine this house is full of devestated people, and it seems impossible to be apart from one another even for a second. Oh yea, I'm officially married now. The ceremony was bitter sweet because it was held in a hospital. Nick's sister's last wish was to see us get married, and she held on long enough to witness it. So now I'm a step-father, I've put my partner temporarily in charge of my company, and I'm unsure as to when I'll be able to return to work. The only upside of grief is the heightened sense of appreciation you have for you loved ones. I consider a bunch of you friends and wanted to keep you updated. If I ever get annoyed at my husband or situations at home I'll probably be taking it out on the trolls who riddle this board, and I may be an asshole or short to be who don't deserve it. Please accept my apology in advance. __________________ Last edited by Elliott; 07-03-2008 at 03:44 PM.
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07-03-2008, 03:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
Kanadesaga Banned Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: NYS - Devil's country Posts: 6,706 My Mood: Blog Entries: 5 Thanks: 220 Thanked 79 Times in 55 Posts	Congratulations on your marriage!! Last edited by Kanadesaga; 07-03-2008 at 03:58 PM.
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07-03-2008, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
slowhand Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 3,600 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 59 Thanked 92 Times in 58 Posts	Hey Elliot!..Im sorry to hear the bad news about your sister in law..ALS is a terrible disease, and to have cancer on top of it all is absolutely heart wrenching Im happy to hear you got married..That is wonderful!..All the best to the both of you!
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07-03-2008, 03:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
W.M.DEEEZ I don't exist either Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 1,713 Thanks: 9 Thanked 68 Times in 48 Posts	Congrats, and condolences...in no particular order. __________________ Don't it always seem to go, that you don't know what you've got til it's gone
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07-03-2008, 04:34 PM	#5 (permalink)
guest1234567 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 2,005 Thanks: 20 Thanked 73 Times in 52 Posts	What a confusing range of emotions you must be feeling, Elliott. What a wonderful and selfless person she must have been to ask that you and your husband live in happiness for the rest of your lives as her last request. I'm sure you'll keep her in your heart as you remember her best as you look forward to your future. Congrats on your marriage and my sympathy on your loss.
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07-03-2008, 07:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
poetrychic polka~holic Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: an octopus's garden in the shade.... Posts: 3,569 My Mood: Thanks: 138 Thanked 164 Times in 103 Posts	e, so sorry for all the heartache you guys are feeling over your loss...i can truly empathise, as the last 6 months have not been particularly kind to our family either...time does make it a bit better, especially if you remember all the happy memories that can bring a smile to your face... i am happy that you got married, tell your husband he's very, very lucky to have you and to never take you for granted or else i'll have to come to california and kick his butt ...take care!! pc __________________ "it was a creed written into the founding documents that declared the destiny of a nation, yes we can!"
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07-04-2008, 03:13 AM	#8 (permalink)
Elliott suggestive human Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Los Angeles (Westwood) Posts: 1,079 My Mood: Thanks: 25 Thanked 31 Times in 20 Posts	I really appreciate all the kind words. My life has drastically changed! We're filing papers so that I can be an official co-parent. She wanted to see us get married because in her fading hours I think she needed to rely on that almost supernatural sense of intuition that people get when they are dying as a final test to see that she'd be leaving her son with two loving people who will make sure he wants for nothing. Nick's been quite the insomniac lately. I gave him an ambien and slept with him until he fell asleep (he really needed it) But I'm still awake and trying to complete some unfinished business and contact my e-friends. __________________
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